Words for Alan

On Tuesday I received the terrible and shocking news that my dear friend Alan suddenly, inexplicably, passed away. Until now I have had no words, but now feel I would like share a few.

Alan was young, and one of the healthiest people I know – so much so that when I first heard the news I thought it was a terrible mistake. To say it has been difficult to comprehend is an understatement. To say he is missed doesn’t come close. And to say I have no words is untrue. In fact, I have an endless list of wonderful words that describe Alan, and yet somehow I cannot seem to get past the “was” that now precedes them.

The number of people who feel this loss is immense, which is a testament to Alan’s incredible presence and character. The loss his wife and daughter must feel right now is indescribable. My heart breaks for them. And for all of us who have the privilege of calling him our friend.

After 20 years of friendship, I am grateful for the many memories I have of Alan, and look forward to the day when I can recall those memories with joy, instead of this overwhelming sadness. I know that will happen with time.